Everyone has their own walk.
Last night our small group met again. This is our third week together and we're just getting to know each other. Each week two or three women get to share their story. They are very different stories and very different storytelling approaches. We've only heard from five women, but each woman's walk with God is very different. I'm not surprised, but it makes me think how different we are but still searching for the same thing.
One thing I think we are searching for is acceptance. We're all unique and we should accept each other for who we are -- but that's easier said than done.
My own journey is two fold. First, I want to live my faith better. Second, I want to just be a better person in general. I know they're probably the same (but I haven't studied the Bible enough). When I say a better person - that's physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. If I'm obnoxious, I want to know it (but I doubt that I am). If I drone on about something, I want someone to shut me up. My feelings might get hurt, but I'll get over it and how can I improve if someone doesn't point these out to me.
It's hard to "correct" someone on their "faults" - after all, who are we to say "something's wrong with you"? But, I think we do want to know.
So, how do you say something? Please share how you would approach this - I need help in this area. I swear I won't start pointing out everyone's faults (it usually takes something significant to catch my attention), it's just the one fault that everyone has a problem with.
What else do you think people are search for?
Its interesting that you posted this last week. The last month of the Jewish calendar, Elul, which we are currently in, is all about facing our negative traits and seeking positive change, preparing for the year ahead.
ReplyDeleteIts our responsibility to be the person we want to be. Maybe even to ask what people see in us as negative so that we may become better. But not to tell others how they can be better. That is their own journey. We cannot control others, we can only control ourselves.
I think we should hold "Annual Reviews" - like we do at work. An annual evaluation with our spouse, family members and friends could be very beneficial. Sometimes its just too difficult to bring up a touchy subject when our emotions are at their highest and sometimes things build up and then its the little things that set us off and then you feel stupid for bringing it up then. I hate confrontation, another one of my faults. I know it's best to clear the air when things happen but I'm not good at it in non-business settings.
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